Are you thinking what I'm thinking?

Yep, above is another Edie quote, said after a fun day at Bashan Lake with friends last weekend. It was the best day at the lake this year. We were only on our schedule. There was relatively minimal schlepping. I finally got to go swimming above my ankles (in a new tankini! The world ain't ready for my bare belly yet...or ever?) We ate huge grinders and dished under the beachside tree.

We were all exhausted and feeling good, and spent from the sun. Dave and I were thinking of relaxing on the couch in the air conditioning to watch mindless golf. I doubt that's what Edie was thinking. She was probably thinking of playing 'bagbeans' or having a dance party or making block towers for her Matchbox cars.

Edie demonstrates her big sister skills.

I thought I'd get so many projects around the house done while on maternity leave, but alas, most are still on my to do list. I am embarrassed whenever someone asks which color we are going with, because there are swatches of paint on our front door. From about a year ago. (For the record I like the peacock blue). I thought I'd organize my sauna attic with an array of color coded Tupperware bins. And I definitely thought I'd weed the garden, at least twice. I went in the backyard yesterday and thought "Ew", then quickly went back into the air conditioning. Ignorance is bliss. There are only so many hours in the day!

Did someone order strawbaby shortcake?

What I have successfully done is show my kids and guests what summer in CT is about. Last month Dave's sister came out to visit. She cleaned my house when I wasn't looking, played with the kiddos despite her killer sore throat, and made me healthy lunches. She even bought fancy gelato from Whole Foods, and left it for us. Now that I think of it, we didn't show her any of the sights (Mark Twain house, anyone!?), but we did chat a lot and she played on the floor while I snuck out to yoga once or twice, so that was cool.

Aunt Becky just loves little Edie

When Dave's parents were here, they got some New England eye-candy. We took a scenic Connecticut River boat cruise, a rowdy trip to the lake, a venture to the Connecticut Science Center, and ate lobster rolls and cole slaw at the beloved Blue Oar. Dave and his dad even got to see inside the ER at UConn Medical Center when Edie fell and fractured her collarbone. Never a dull moment, and luckily she's recovering nicely. She's even going to swimming lessons and embracing water like never before. Last year getting her to swim was like pulling teeth. This season it's actually fun. (Emmeline is not really one for swimming but she does enjoy a good bath in her whale tub.)

I heard that to extend summer, put your phone down. In light of that advice, I removed the Facebook app. I didn't want summer to go by while I was scrolling though my Facebook feed. Who cares what everyone else is doing? It's hot. We're going swimming.

The kiddos and the Grandmas

Whip-smart toddlers, 12-minute miles, and suburban rec rooms

Yesterday when I picked Edie up from daycare, she said (in front of her buddies at the snack table), "Mom, your tummy is small!" I thought, Bless you, child. Last week we were watching an ant carry a huge load of food. She claimed, "He's carrying it to his brother's house!" Her favorite colors are purple and blue. I asked if she wanted brown or white rice. She said, "I want purple and blue rice!"

Could I love them anymore? No.

I always think, I gotta write this down. And I do keep a journal for her, and now Emmeline, but there's no way to capture it all. Besides, this blog is my journal.

I don't like when people look at Emmeline and state, "Enjoy it, they grow up so fast". I never had post-partum depression but that comment just turns my mood towards melancholy. I know they grow up fast. I'm watching Edie grow up fast (almost three!?) Although on days when Edie repeatedly says "I don't wanna", it doesn't seem like they grow up fast enough. A newborn is just a little sack of sugar, and she is starting to engage and coo more, but it'll be fun when she smiles purposely and interacts with us and Edie. Or declares where an ant is going.

The playground's where it's at.

Another amazing toddler development is her association with time. Edie often says, "Hey, we saw that yesterday", meaning any time in the past. We read a book that had a horse, a goat, and a unicorn among other creatures.  She said she saw them all yesterday. I asked if she really saw a unicorn. "Yes, on Abby's Flying Fairy School". She's right! Well, it was a gerbil-corn but close enough.

Niblet, the Sesame Street gerbil-corn

In other news, I went on my first run since December this week! I maintained a granny-like pace of 12 minute mile. I ran then walked another mile, and it felt great. Family friend Mary Ellen stayed home with Emmeline, as she's a bit young to go running with me, but I'm looking forward to jogging stroller days as well. No races for me yet, but I'm volunteering at an 'Extreme Scramble' next week. Watching running events always psyches me up.

Also, we are making some good progress on the basement. And by we I mean my Dad. The walls have been painted purple, the carpet will be installed next Friday, and my pops is busy hanging doors and installing trim as I type. It's not ready for playing in or hosting guests, but will be soon, and we're excited to have more living space. We might not have a proper couch for some time though. Unless we find a decent one for free! 

"Look at that face!" (another Edie quote)

Lastly, Emmeline is a great baby. She sleeps well, and is growing like a weed. She's already challenging her 0-3 month onesies. Dave stayed with her and gave her a bottle last night, while I went out with some girlfriends for Greek apps, white wine, and some good ol' fashioned dishing. I believe Dave and Emmeline may have bonded, just in time for Father's Day.

Parenthood ONL (on 'notha level)

Hello from mama-land. All is pretty well, but two kids is no joke. Some friends take care of their kids full time, and I can see how it'd qualify as a full time job.

Edie's been sick twice since Emmeline was born. On the day she visited us in the hospital, she vomited in the downstairs lobby, the start of a stomach bug. Luckily my parents were able to care for  her and, sadly, keep her at bay from our newborn. This past Sunday she had a runny nose which morphed into a cough and wheeze that requires a nebulizer and meds to open up the airways. She's been home with me and Emmeline this week. Doctors' orders are to lay low, and we can't meet up with friends because I don't want to spread whatever she's got. I'm loving my time with both babes but we're watching more t.v. than I'd like. It is laughable trying to keep a toddler from coughing on a baby. We put a temporary flower tattoo on Edie's forearm; I told her to cough into the flower to make it better.

Edie getting better.

Edie returned to school for half the day, so we'll see how it goes. This morning she declared, "I feel better!" and she sounded better too. As soon as I told her we're going to school, she declared, "But I'm sick!" Funny how quickly they learn to manipulate the situation. Can you blame a girl for wanting to watch Cinderella with her mama and little sister on a dreary day?

Emmeline's a doll; so new and precious. Newborns smell faintly of milk, and it's basically impossible to keep the run-off milk from collecting in their sweaty little necks, even though I bathe and clean her. I'm kinda surprised that I'm so smitten with newborns, but I am. Especially ones who sleep and generally have a good temperament. That could all change on a dime, so every night that I get a decent amount of sleep is a victory. Tonight could be a train wreck, you never know.

Will she take a pacifier? What about a lovey?
Let's ply the girl with comfort objects.

My mom's been a great help. She comes over often and is of service, folding laundry or cleaning up my kitchen or holding the baby while reading to Edie, even if she's here for 10 minutes. What can I say, she's a busy lady. I don't even need to ask, she just looks around, sees, and does. That is the same industriousness that her mom and grandma passed down. My dad has also been here a lot, and he's great day-time company. Being home is nice, but can be isolating. He works in our basement, tinkers around the yard finding projects and weeds to tackle, and we chat while he eats our leftovers. Also, I believe he might've just finished off the gourmet English Muffins that Michelle sent, but I'll let that slide since he does so much to keep our house up. Yeah, I pay my dad in English Muffins.

Memere's got her hands full,
and Edie's got some avant garde bed-head.

On the other end of the spectrum, Dave has been working like a madman ever since his lovely and leisurely paternity leave ended last week. It was fun to hang out without the stresses of the workday overshadowing conversations. I don't think we'd spent that much time together since we had Edie and he had summer's off back in Seattle. We ate delicious turkey sandwiches on soft rolls for lunch (welcome back, deli meat!), and watched Inside Amy Schumer at 2pm.

Now, as the school year winds down, his grad school and work schedule are forming a perfect storm, and once in a while he plays softball (on one league down from an all-time high of three, so it seems reasonable). He recently asked if he could play 18 holes of golf this weekend with some buddies. For the uninitiated, it takes about 5 hours, assuming no beer and burgers post-game. I don't think I responded verbally, just flashed him a look that spoke a thousand words....unfortunately that look will probably make some more appearances in the coming years.

First day getting out the door in one piece.

Over the last few weeks, having two little kids has instilled a fear of commitment. I make minor plans, and attached to those plans is a footnote that indicates we may be late or bail, and please don't hold it against us! Just getting out the door in one piece means it's a successful day.

Emmeline has arrived!

Dave, Edie and I welcomed Emmeline Ashley to the world in the wee hours of May 2.

Before her arrival, I attempted to blog twice to kvetch about being overdue. But that's pretty boring.  And I wasn't even that bored or overdue, so I scrapped my drafts and decided to hold out for a post about Emmeline's birth story. I believe all pregnant ladies and new mamas love birth stories. Maybe some new dads do, too.

Dave and I picked her name around Christmas. We were driving up I-5 in Seattle, tossing around ideas to complement Edie's name and to honor family. We veer towards vintage, and there's a cutie at Edie's day care named Emaline. It means 'industrious' and we chose the French spelling (for those wondering, Emmeline rhymes with Caroline). People ask if we plan to shorten it to a nickname, as with Edie's, but we don't. We just love the full name, and picked Ashley to honor my little sister, whom I adore. 

We were asked throughout pregnancy all the way into the delivery room if we'd settled on a name. Our lips were sealed! We didn't even tell the midwife or nurse until she was born. Everyone has an opinion, and many feel compelled to share it with expectant moms. We liked having our little secret.

My Saturday due date came and went without so much as a cramp. I stayed busy baking with Edie, napping, and making my "Emmeline: Get Born" mix in the days that followed. On Wednesday, Dave took the day off to attend my post-due date appointment, where they checked amniotic fluid, did a fetal non-stress test, and swept membranes. Sweeping the membranes is a non-invasive form of induction. It starts cramping that ideally triggers contractions, which ideally progress to labor. It's strange but when you're in late pregnancy, you want to be in pain. It means the baby is on its way... and pregnancy is soon over. Hooray!

Around 4pm, we picked up Edie from day care and Dave started playing housekeeping with the class, when I felt some contraction pain. I was like, "Dave, take off that kiddie bandanna, I want to go home". We walked to the park to play and to keep contractions coming. After dinner and Edie's bedtime, they were definitely increasing. We packed up our bags and called my mom to come spend the night with our girl. I kept sitting down, standing up, and swaying through the contractions, then reading my magazine or watching 'Modern Family' in the time in between.

Around 10:30 I called my midwife, Kira. She instructed me to labor on and call when contractions "bring a tear to your eye". An hour later, small talk was painful and reading impossible. I was heavily focused on breathing and not vomiting at the smell of Dave's late-night chicken nugget snack. Kira gave us the green light to go to the hospital.

Admittal to the delivery room was stressful. The lights were on full blast, many people were in the room, the nurse kept missing my veins to get the IV in, and you know, those damn contractions kept crashing down like a wave. Lastly, it is impossible to feel dignified in a hospital johnny. Ugh. Labor may be less painful if I didn't have to wear that open-backed gown.

I was 6 cm dialated when we arrived at midnight, and ready for the epidural. My blood pressure had spiked, but subsided once the epidural took hold, they turned lights down, and everyone but Dave, Kira, and Emily the nurse left the room. We hooked up my Get Born mix and were able to relax a bit. At one point, Dave was sleeping while Kira, Emily, and I discussed eHarmony like we were three friends at a bar. I was tired and wanted to sleep, then developed a fever that they treated with antibiotics.

I got stressed out all over again and decided that labor is the absolute worst, even though I barely felt pain. There are so many twists and turns...you just want it to progress with ease. But then, it wouldn't be called 'labor'.

The baby's position and my cervix weren't ready until my water broke and the nurse drained a liter (a liter!!) of urine, around 3:45 am. After that, labor came on like gangbusters. In an hour, I was ready to push, and did so through about two contractions. She was born at 5:02 am, and it's just amazing to hear that newborn cry and have a squishy, warm new baby placed on your chest and look up at you.

And that's how Emmeline arrived in this world.

Downshifting

Can I get a high five? Maternity leave started at about 4pm on Friday, and over the last few days, I've fully embraced my new, mellower lifestyle. Who knows how long this calm before the storm will last?

Diaper cake and cards from my colleagues

Monday, Edie went to daycare to celebrate Circus Day. They did facepainting, rode bikes on "high wires" and jumped through "rings of fire". I love the imaginative play her school organizes. I also love when she knows games or songs that we didn't teach her. Last week, she belted out "Take Me Out to the Ballgame" after their school-wide Baseball Day. Hearing her sing about Cracker Jacks made my morning.

While she was at daycare, I did some spring cleaning, then went to mid-day yoga with my mom, followed by lunch. When I picked up Edie in my yoga pants she said, "You're not wearing your work clothes!" I said, "Well, I didn't go to work, I was home." Her eyes got real big: "You were...home?" I felt totally caught out by my whip-smart girl. We're planning to keep her in daycare, if not full-time, for a while. We want to maintain some level of normalcy and routine once the baby arrives. I already feel the mom-guilt settling in, but I suspect it'll be the best strategy for all parties involved.

Edie and I visited our local farm

Edie and I have had the last couple of days together, living up our girl time. We meet up with friends in the morning, go out for ice cream treats, play, and indulge in afternoon naps. Needless to say, I'm totally downshifting my pace. I have a to-do list, but my daily goal is to nap; so far I'm excelling. Yesterday we baked an Atlantic Beach Pie, courtesy of a recipe on NPR, and brought it to my parents' house for after-dinner. It was off the hook.

A springtime recipe to hold onto: Atlantic Beach Pie

Being pregnant the second time is different all around. For example, when pregnant with Edie, I had butterflies every day thinking: "THIS MIGHT BE THE DAY!!" Now I'm highly doubtful our baby will arrive early, plus I'm not as anxious about labor/delivery/parenthood in general. Furthermore, I realize how elusive a good night's sleep will soon be, and that's why my current strategy is sleep.

Of course I don't know how this labor and delivery will go down, or what kind of temperament our new girl will have, but here are some things I'm pretty confident about:

1. The human body figures out childbirth, recovers, and forgets the physical pain of labor. (And, there are epidurals for a reason). 
2. No one really stops to review your precious birth plan, so there's no point in creating one. 
3. Once she arrives, the first couple weeks will be a fog. It's better if there is some good late-night programming to dive into (Shark Week during Edie's first few days meant captivating TV at ungodly hours of the night).
4. Family and friends will offer to help, and we'll accept offers big and small. So it's ok that I don't have a freezer stocked with casseroles and lasagnas like books recommend. Trader Joe's makes some awesome frozen dinners, and they ain't going anywhere. Besides, isn't it hot dog season?
5. Edie will probably have a tough time adjusting to a sister competing for our time and attention. She'll eventually adjust, and so will we. 
6. Newborns cry a lot and need to be fed, oh, every 8 minutes. But they are so darn cute and cuddly. And they have that dreamy newborn smell.

I have some random home projects to do, but primarily I'm going to enjoy a slower pace and time with my friends and family.  Life will be chaotic soon enough.

Enjoying an ice cream date with my girl

Soft ground, warm heart

I need to write in my (nonexistent) 2014 calendar, under last week in March: VACATION. I'd like a friendly reminder about the perfect time to escape Connecticut so I don't sit around waiting for the ground to thaw. Maybe I'm just anxiously awaiting our baby. The arrival of Spring and the baby are intertwined.

Freezing buns off, pre-5k

Edie's been incredibly cute, and very into dancing. She didn't want to leave school yesterday because she was having a solo dance party. Today we all relaxed after work to Wilco and watched her best moves (spin around real fast, bonk head on floor, with a smooth transition into downward dog). It's pretty entertaining. I love when she hears music when seated, cannot contain the urge to move, and just goes for it. That is pure Edie.

Twenty five pounds of cuteness

In other news, my cousin and her family are moving back here! I'm super excited about this prospect, because she's one of my besties. Their daughter Camden and Edie, who are 10 days apart, are destined to be besties too. No pressure girls! They've been living in the suburbs of Boston for years, but now that they have two little kids, want to be closer to family and all the support that abounds here in central CT. It's the same magnetic pull that draws young parents to leave cool cities for less cool suburbs. I can attest that it's a hard trade (i.e. have I mentioned how much I miss Seattle coffee and music?), but when you have little kids and demanding jobs and homes that your dad can help improve, leveraging family support is a no brainer (have I mentioned how helpful and invaluable my parents are??).

So far, everything's been falling into place for their move to happen, but we aren't popping champagne yet. It's just something I have in my back pocket to look forward to.

Michelle and baby Shane

My dad has been hard at work renovating our basement. Until a few weeks ago, it was your typical basement. Furnace, washing machine, bunch of knick knacks from the former owner that we ignored. Now that our dining room doubles as a toy box and our office was repurposed as Edie's room, it seemed time to expand the living space.

My Dad had some time, and he's an incredibly talented craftsmen, so we set him to work! We've had the plumber retrofit the plumbing, an electrician and his dutiful son light up the place something beautiful, and now my Dad is hanging sheetrock along the ceiling and walls. It's starting to look like a place we'd actually like to hang out, and I'm pretty jazzed. I have dreams of doing early morning workouts down there, and an organized, well-lit work space, and a futon for out of towners. Or maybe it'll just be another catch-all for baby and kid gear. Padded walls and rubber floors? We'll see.

Happy feets

Guess this all requires money, doesn't it? Not sure that abounds much these days...But, cheers to being broke young parents with dancing toddlers and loving families.

Playing outside while the ground thaws

If pregnancy were a book...

“If pregnancy were a book, they would cut the last two chapters." - Nora Ephron

These days, I'm just lucky to find a shirt that fits before it's time to leave in the morning. There are multiple phases in pregnancy, and the glowy, magical, isn't-this-wonderful stage passed a while ago.  Now I'm in the my-body-feels-like-an-alien phase. I don't hate pregnancy, but the end is uncomfortable, tiring, and I believe I'm going to be asked every day by a colleague when I'm due. They think it's tomorrow.

I'm nearly 34 weeks (Etsy t-shirt find)

I do like that the days are getting longer, randomly warmer, and I spied a little green thing peeking out of the mulch today.

Ugh, the mulch!? Do I need to start thinking about doing yard work already? This worries me. Edie told me there's a river in our backyard, and unfortunately she's right. There's a long, thin pool of where a dead tree was felled, and it needs to be filled with dirt and covered in grass seed. This project feels out of my scope. Today my boss suggested hiring a landscaper to do a spring cleaning, and I embraced this idea wholeheartedly. I need to call my friend Jeff who has a landscaping company. STAT!

About all the yard I can handle (yet another Etsy gem)

I've finally got my hands on our shared Kindle. I first read The Fault in Our Stars, and finished in record time. Now I've got Gone Girl for book club. I am a library enthusiast, but with a Kindle I can have a book in the flick of a wrist, and that is amazingly efficient. I'm all for efficiency, and Amazon makes it way too easy to spend money. Also, I never said I was an early adopter (see Kindle, Gone Girl, The Fault in Our Stars).

Sweet ballet doll (you guessed it- Etsy!)

Tonight we went to a fundraiser at my mom's school for the annual musical, which she produces. The show is "Annie", and we're bringing Edie in a couple weeks. Edie's more of a ballet enthusiast than musical aficionado. She asked me to turn off Manu Chao during dinner the other night and put on "ballet". So I found a classical radio station and she was very into it. She wanted to see ballet dancers on t.v. while I tried to explain we just listen, not watch. I tried to find a ballet class for her, but they start at ages three and up. Who would've thought I'd have a ballerina on my hands? The Nutcracker set her passion on fire.